Have you ever stopped in the middle of your journey to ask yourself: “What am I really meant to do with my life?”

I don’t think having a career that we excel in ever started in the middle or its peak. That’s why it’s called a start isn’t it? You start by just doing, doing what’s familiar at first and then finding out what you’re good at. You keep doing the routine until you’re confronted with the numbing question if you enjoy what you’re doing or not. Is it something you see doing for the rest of your life?

I believe everyone is meant to do great things and it doesn’t matter where you start or how you start, you’ll eventually get there. You play your part and the things you want start happening when you start doing things that actually matter to you.

I specialize in helping thought leaders spread their message and I’ve seen the same principle to work. The ones who are most successful and still in business, wing it, then improve later. Always start your ideas with action—because even if you have great ideas, if you’re not turning them into reality, nobody will ever hear of it.

I was once asked by a client what topics would work for his audience because as far as his efforts have gone, not everything received the response he had hoped for. My answer is very simple: you have to believe in your ideas first before any one ever will. It is the fuel to your projects, one that produces consistent actions and delivers a brilliant strategy.

Starting or getting your ideas off the ground is the most critical time when you’re almost quite doubtful and the most insecure. But when you pursue things that matter to you, it becomes unshakeable, an obsession you need to fulfil. Pleasing others is no longer the main motivation. The idea itself wakes you up in the middle of the night pulsating mad.

So back to the time when I myself was trying to figure out what I wanted to do with my life, I consulted with friends, reflected a lot and sought some comfort from career/ success books. Then, one day I came across an article that stayed with me and built the core of my values when doing projects.

The line goes:

You’ll know what you’re supposed to do with your life when talent intersects with opportunities.

This line ripples the adage: learn to listen to your life.

Learn to take notice in opportunities that demand a specific talent within you while also exciting and liberating you at the same time.

We all have a journey and no matter what we do, I believe we’ll always end up where we are supposed to be. So today, every time I meet someone who asks the question: “What should I do with my life?”, I answer with that quote.

You’ll know what you’re supposed to do with your life when talent intersects with opportunities.

I’ve done all sorts of odd jobs in the past, if you’re a worker, I’m sure you have done it too. And until that phrase, I found I have been growing a career in Marketing where I have been oblivious to the patterns of my opportunities. Not only that, I did not realize it was what I enjoy doing the most.

But then you say, what if what you want to do is such a broad subject, how do you know what to do exactly?

Again, outline the opportunities in your life and find what among them you love doing the most. Opportunities happen when you’re doing something you’re great at. The second step is to deal with the big question of: do you enjoy doing it too?

Here’s the secret sauce for knowing what you’re meant to do in life:

Opportunities + projects that matter to you = what you’re meant to do in life

I found that when you start doing things that matter, you’ll excel at it and grow because you’ll push further more than you initially intended. When you do things that actually matter to you, it brings in opportunities that you’re meant to do because you possess the gifts that make those opportunities a success!

And when you focus on pursuing things that only bring you satisfaction, even if you fail, you rest to recover only to do it again. It becomes a cycle bringing you to serendipitous events that coincide with what you truly want to do in life.

Mark Cuban said in a Shark Tank episode, you only have to get it right ONCE and then you’re set for life!

So what are the projects that matter to you? Start doing them today!

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What you need to know about the First Flying Car of this millennium

Dutch car company PAL-V is considered the first car company to successfully take its flying car off the ground.

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The patented vehicle drives like a sports car with its slim, aerodynamic body that can fit 2 passengers. It runs on gasoline and has a foldable push propeller that directs it forward and is lifted off the ground by an auto-rotating rotor. The slow rotation of the rotor provides a quieter experience than helicopters and has short take-off and landing capabilities that allow drivers to land anywhere.

The PAL-V ONE can run at speeds up to 180 km/h, both on land and in the air. It flies below 4,000 feet allowing someone on the go to travel without interference from commercial air traffic. The two-seat car and gyroplane hybrid is set up to comply with existing road and air traffic regulations so it can travel anywhere. It also has a cutting-edge, ‘tilting’ system that glides like a motorcycle.

Another great thing about this flying car is its safety feature. In the event that the engine fails, the PAL-V ONE can safely land on the ground with the help of the auto-rotating rotor. The aircraft engine is flight certified and powered by gasoline. Other versions are also being developed so it can run on biodiesel or bio-ethanol.

In 2014, the PAL-V ONE flew over the Gilze Rijen Airport in the Netherlands, six years after the first prototypes were created. A few notable institutions involved in the project include  the Dutch National Aerospace Laboratory, Delft University and the Dutch Ministry of Economic Affairs. PAL-V was launched by a group of Dutch entrepreneurs and industry leaders specializing in aviation, automotive, research, and marketing.

The company was picked by Maxim Magazine as their top pick for flying cars. PAL-V CEO Robert Dingemanse is proud to have his company recognized for the work they have done “to create a flying car that actually conforms to existing regulations and is safe to fly.” To drive the flying car, one needs a Sports Pilot License in the US or a Recreational or Private Pilot License in Europe.

With over 135,000 monthly searches on Google, the flying car is not just a concept from a Jetsons episode anymore. Today, so many are eager to know what’s next for the flying car industry and PAL-V has certainly made the first round in realizing this dream.

BBC reported that the company accepted its first batch of orders only from customers in the Netherlands. The first Pal-V One cars, at an estimated price of $395,000, started production in 2014 and set for delivery in 2016.

Today, the company has produced another model called PAL-V LIBERTY, a special limited edition that is set to cost €500,000. The company is said to produce only 90 of this flying car model with 45 reserved for the European market.

How to Get Inspiration from a Business Idea When You’re Paralyzed

Why Passion Is Not Enough To Launch A Business

Every day we see startups appealing to investors and their potential customers whatever it is that they offer differently. While the other part of the world is doing just that, you, on the other hand, are reading about it on your newsfeed.

If you are a part of the small percentage that WANTS to be an entrepreneur, has a brilliant business idea that could change the game or have a huge amount of investment potential, but have yet to take the first step, keep this in mind:

Passion is not enough!

You may be passionate about lobsters and you want to be the next big gourmet restaurant in your city BUT you haven’t taken the first few steps in launching it. You have an envisioned template, colours you want to put on your signage, a fun looking lobster cartoon for your logo and so on… but have you thought about where to source your lobsters yet? Have you determined the costs of your ingredients? Have you asked how much the lease contract is in that place you’ve been eyeing for months?

IF not, then what is stopping you?

The real first step in becoming an entrepreneur is breaking away from paralysis. This paralysis often happens when you struggle to act on what you want to do because of an indecision. You ask yourself many times, do I even have the time to do this? Should I do this? Maybe not. It’s such a long way to go, I think I’ll do it later.

Later becomes never until the idea dissipates into oblivion —- for nobody to ever see or experience at all.

Being an entrepreneur means breaking from this paralysis. You may be passionate about a lot of things, but only acting on it would make it a reality. So if passion is not enough, what else is needed for sparks to fly?

OBSESSION.

Obsession is defined as the domination of one’s thoughts or feelings by a persistent idea, image, desire, etc.  

When you are obsessed with an idea, you never stop thinking about it and you relentlessly pursue it, work on it until one idea is realised after the other. You work on it until you notice the passion fueling that desire and you almost feel your head whirling with such determination and progress because you can almost see your ideas come to life.

Passion fuels your dreams while obsession jumpstarts it. It also takes you where you want to go, never stopping, pushing you further than you’ve ever thought you could go.

Has this happened to you? Is there something you’ve wanted so bad you never stopped until you achieved it?

How to Make Your Bio More Memorable

CRAFTING A MORE PERSONAL BIO HIGHLIGHTS YOUR MOTIVATION FOR WANTING TO BE INVOLVED IN THAT PARTICULAR PROJECT. IT MAKES YOU MEMORABLE EVEN BEFORE THE INTERVIEW HAS STARTED.

When you hold a leadership role, you must be genuinely interested in people to perform really well. Leadership, as most business coaches claim, has to be an intrinsic ability to learn about people’s behaviours, environment, and reactions in a free or controlled environment where rules should be met. It’s a rigorous affair, I dare say.

I’ve tried it on and I like it very much, not for the position I held that often times came with a lot of responsibilities, but because it allowed me an insight into different perspectives. I like  learning about differences in perspectives because it humbles me as a person and it educates me about the different motivations people have.

IN MY WORLD, ACTIONS ARE ALWAYS THE DIRECT RESULT OF MOTIVATION:

I do this because I like it or
I do this because I want to earn this or
I do this because I need it for my physical or psychological survival.

ACTIONS ARE OUR COPING MECHANISM TO OUR INNER MOST DESIRES.

It may be done directly or indirectly but when we sum it all up, our actions vibrate what we want in our lives.

When I started writing BIOs for website owners or executives looking to polish their old resumes, I get excited because I get to tell the real story. And I like adding something that has happened unexpectedly or something they love doing that shows a snippet about who they truly are. Don’t you just hate stiff bios that almost feels like it came from the obituary?

My favourite bio writing experience would have to be for one of my mentors in business. He teaches MBA and Engineering courses in one of the country’s most prestigious university. He’s known for wearing cargo shorts on campus, making it is his own personal brand.

I integrated this into his bio to show his fun personality besides his countless career achievements. That experience also inspired me to write a HubPages article, Getting Ready to Eat an Elephant.

Here’s an excerpt:

Ernie has always been one who stands out from the crowd because of his unique ideas that touch or challenges his audience when teaching MBA in his trademark shorts. His interest in human interaction has inspired him to study Anthropology after taking his major in Mechanical Engineering from the University of San Carlos.

You can read his full bio on his website here.

YOUR BIO INTRODUCES THE READER TO ACHIEVEMENTS AND PERSONAS THAT THEY KNOW NOTHING ABOUT UNLESS THEY DIG DEEPER.

How many of your friends own prestigious job titles that you know about? Have you learned about their more recent promotion and why they were given that award?

Most times you see a Facebook post about accomplishments but never about the reason behind it. You’ll credit it to hard work but never consider the strategy employed to win that account.

Having to write someone’s bio is a meaningful experience for me and an opportunity to show someone’s journey while chasing after their dreams.

Today, businesses lean towards more personal experiences because it engages their customer on a human level. Gone are the days of brands with corporate feelers: the girl next door is the new IT girl.

Crafting a more personal bio highlights your motivation for wanting to be involved in that particular project. Most important of all, it makes you memorable among the millions of applicants rooting for that coveted spot.

Progressive Joe and Pumpkin Pie

No one else will touch your life like the people who work with you that put you on a pedestal.

I admire people who are so resilient and at the same time honest. I admire people who can say that they cannot deliver the kind of work expected even if there is not much pressure given to them.

I’ve been able to work with people locally and internationally and yet people by nature are all the same. When they do not know what they want out of life themselves, it will be very difficult for them to work with others.

Today, in between the busy holiday schedule and my day job and the client inquiries that I needed to respond to, I received a text message from a potential supplier who I reached out to weeks before.

I had not expected any updates from him like the countless other people who just went with the wind like dust. But this particular person reached out after weeks.

Progressive Joe, I want to call him. 

He apologised, like how Pinoys are taught by the Chinese to constantly ask for forgiveness even without fault. He advised that he has reached out to his other contacts without getting any reply. And that he would still go off on a search in the northern part of town to find me what I was looking for.

I have learned in the past to grow some patience. Great things take time, and great people emerge during these times. That is why choosing to work with the right kind of people is always key to progress. By the time that you’ve spent so man-hours waiting for the right guy to come into your life, you learn the tricks to the trade. Patience should always be coupled with kindness because when you lose your head, you lose those people too.

And it pays to be both. Because in between the chaos, there’s something good that will come along. Like Pumpkin Pie or Banana Tofee Pie from Micky’s. But that will be another story.

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A Surrogate Mother and Her Role in Childbearing

A surrogate mother plays the key role in childbearing for same sex or infertile couples. It is one of the most compelling issues and subjects of philosophical and political debates where childbearing is concerned. But surrogacy has paved the way for childless couples to raise their own children in a more transparent process.

Commercial surrogacy usually involves a surrogacy agency to help couples screen and pick the best surrogate mother who would match their ideals and lifestyle choices. In surrogacy, the intended parents may suggest lifestyle practices to the surrogate mother which she willingly accepts. This is what differentiates adoption to surrogacy as natural birth mothers looking for adoptive parents need not follow their advice in the pregnancy journey.

A surrogate mother is compensated for her participation in carrying the intended parents’ child where states that support surrogacy do not charge taxes for her compensation. While in adoption, adoptive parents support the natural birth mother and hope that she will decide to give her baby for adoption without any guarantees.

There are two kinds of commercial surrogacy practiced today.

The first is called gestational surrogacy where the surrogate mother undergoes IVF and the child is not genetically linked to her.

The second one is called traditional surrogacy where the surrogate mother uses her own eggs and gets artificial or natural insemination from one of the intended parents or from a sperm donor. This is not practiced as much today.

Once agreements are reached between the surrogate mother and the intended parents, and the surrogacy agency agrees to the match, lab tests and psychological assessments follow. When the surrogate mother passes the exams and proves to be healthy to carry a baby, she will undergo IVF  (in-vitro fertilization) and wait until she conceives.

To be at the healthiest state, a surrogate must be 21-44 years old,has a healthy physique and a sound mind fit for childbirth. Most reputable surrogacy agencies would require potential surrogates to have her own children so she understands why she is doing it for someone else and already knows the birthing process. Ideally, she comes from a middle-class family with good education and resides in good living conditions.

The surrogate mother may be compensated for her participation but it does not equate to the journey she goes thru. It takes more than just 9 months of her life as sometimes the first IVF is not going to be successful. Sometimes it takes more than 1 attempt before she successfully conceives.

While some surrogacy is exclusive and does not require the participation of the intended parents, it is important that she has a support system to know she is not alone in the journey. Most reputable agencies today have their own support group for surrogate mothers and this is key in carrying a healthy and happy baby.

In states that support surrogacy, it is easier to process a pre-birth order wherein the intended parents are awarded the “declaration of parentage”. This enables them to bring home the child after the surrogate gives birth. Intended parents have the option to include the surrogate mother in the birth certificate. This is practiced in open surrogacy. This option is welcomed in states where surrogacy is supported. Where it is not, the adoption process is followed.

Every year, there are 9 surrogate mothers in every state who give birth in the US. They are the main reason a childless couple is able to fulfill their dreams of building a family.


Originally written for Arcalea

After discovering Brené Brown on Ted Talks, I’ve been following her work since. Her study of human behavior, what motivates us and what drains us, has always intrigued me. And among her studies, this particular discussion moves me the most, no matter how many times I watch it.

I hope you enjoy it the same way I did!

Brené Brown studies human connection — our ability to empathize, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity. Why you should listen Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. She has spent the past ten years studying vulnerability, courage, authenticity, and shame. She spent the first five years of her decade-long study focusing on shame and empathy, and is now using that work to explore a concept that she calls Wholeheartedness. She poses the questions:

How do we learn to embrace our vulnerabilities and imperfections so that we can engage in our lives from a place of authenticity and worthiness? How do we cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection that we need to recognize that we are enough – that we are worthy of love, belonging, and joy?